I’m legitimately sick today for some reason, so I cancelled two appointments and Heinrich gave me the night off.
I’d like to post this, though. It’s something that I’ve been thinking about for a long time.
Sensory deprivation and restraint (bondage) really calms some people down. Why do you think that is?
I’ve seen in a million times, with clients and with boyfriends. The first thing that I do when I have a client who is highly strung and too nervous to express himself coherently is slap a blindfold on him (usually I don’t use blindfolds at work unless it’s a specific request, because the guys want to look at the eye candy). It works. If he can’t see me, it takes all the pressure off (of both parties, I might add). They can talk and concentrate again.
Same thing goes for bondage. There are large numbers of people who enjoy bondage, and it’s the only kinky thing they’re interested in. The people who like mummification or full-body restraint are fanatical about it. They use it to relax, or to get into a special frame of mind. I’ve met people who came to the Studio just to hang out in their special little body cocoons (one was a successful musician who’d use the sensory deprivation to get creative. He’d ask the mistress to help him snort his cocaine as he lay in his sack). Then there are the rope and shibari people who invest considerable effort in studying it, practicing it, and experiencing it.
Some people find it very sexually uninhibiting, also. That goes both ways–the people who experience this from being tied up, and the people who experience it from tying someone up. I can’t speak about the women, because I have no experience there, but the men who fetishize tying women up are a special breed. They change as they do it; derive intense satisfaction from it. The Mathematician was one such man, and that is how we met.
Now, what I’m wondering is: is there a name, a scientific name, for the phenomenon of finding sensory deprivation/bondage soothing or arousing? Have researchers studied this? Is there a physiological explanation for why it feels good to some people?
Because it’s not just kinky people doing this to get their rocks off. Veterinarians put some animals into “squeeze boxes” to calm them down for examination. Temple Gradin, the well-known autistic animal scientist, constructed a “hug machine” to relieve anxiety.
Look at this: Body Pod Sensory Sock, on Amazon:
Parents rave about this thing in the reviews. I have no idea if it’s quack woo therapy. I think it could be legit. This is fundamentally the same thing as a fullbody bag at the Studio, yes? Why do the kids find the experience of being in the sensory sock soothing?
(I’m intensely curious about these things and would like to buy one for myself to experiment with, even though I don’t consider myself to be a true bondage enthusiast. But until I’m living alone again, it would be impossible to explain. But look at all the bright pretty colors you can get it in! Maybe I should ask for it for my birthday. Doesn’t it LOOK LIKE FUN? Don’t lie!)
And look at this thing: Thundershirt Dog Anxiety Solution
|Therapudic bondage for dogs?|
This is a snug, weighted coat. Why does this calm some dogs down when they’re frightened? It has to be the same reason the animals calm down in the squeeze machine, right?
Does anyone have any ideas about this? Is there a bondage aficionado among by 8 readers willing to offer an opinion?
The blog post lacks a coherent hypothesis because I don’t have one.
Here are some owls, just because: