Reader Mailbag: January Edition

   “Have you ever been submissive to a domme?”
                                               –Random Internet Stranger

     Hmmm…hard to tell if this is an honest question, or just wank-bait from a random internet wanker. 

     My Ex, the Surgeon, hired a prodomme twice because he wanted to see me dominated and beaten by a woman.  It was not something I would have done of my own volition, but since there was no sex involved, I acquiesced.  I did it for his entertainment.  The experiences were not unpleasant, but if he wasn’t in the room, I would not have been there.  

      I’m a little squeamish about the idea of submitting to women, actually.  Not sure why.  I’ve dominated (hetero) couples at work and actually had fun with it.  

      I do not have sex with women.  Ever.

      “How do you know you don’t have an STD?”
                                  –Whorephobic Random Internet Misogynist 

       The only reason I’m printing and answering this is so that my 8 readers can see, up close and personal, the perennial accusation thrown at women who have sex: you are a poxy whore! 

       But to answer your question: Because I get tested for everything every 4 months when I’m sexually active, you asshole.  I got tested so often that the people at Planned Parenthood started discouraging me from coming in (I still went). When’s the last time you had your bloodwork done? 

       I also use latex barriers for everything.  They work.  I have never been pregnant and I have never contracted an STI, and I think it is probably safe to assume that I have had a sex life that is much more fun and interesting than your own.  

        I hate slut-shaming and I hate whore-phobic “you’re a poxy whore!” bullshit.  You won’t get sick from having sex as long as you take a few simple precautions.  I almost never come into contact with bodily fluids at work, anyway.  Do you sling this shit at nurses and hospital workers? 

        “What is your favorite flower?”
                                     –Random Internet Stranger 

        Wow, a normal question.  You must be a woman. 

         I love flowers!  My home always has flowers. 

         My favorite are Stargazer Lilies…but after I found the Mathematician’s wedding portraits online and saw that they were used in all the floral arrangements, it sort of ruined it for me.  

        Roses, buttercups, lilacs.  Violets. Magnolias.  The little flowers on Christmas Cactus (I love cacti!).  Orchids. 

        I just plain love flowers.  If I was rich, I would have them all over the place. 

        “What are your favorite books?”
                                        –The Same Random Internet Stranger

        My favorite book is Jude the Obscure, by Thomas Hardy. 

         Dominion: The Power of Man, the Suffering of Animals, and the Call to Mercy, by Matthew Scully.  I find his politics objectionable, but this book changed my life.  The only Animal-Rights book I know of written by a right-winger…and it’s poetry.

       Richard III, Othello, and Hamlet

       Francis Bacon, Thomas Hobbes, and the odd man out, Rousseau (fucking Continental philosophers, you know how they are!). Machiavelli, the first modern Political Scientist.  Stephen Crane. Walt Whitman. Battle Cry of Freedom, by James McPherson.

       Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee, by Dee Brown. Arguably the saddest book I have ever read. 

      Umberto Eco’s On Ugliness.  

      Robert Caro?  Master of the Senate? 

       Isaak Babel, Red Calvary. 

       Primo Levi


        Too many other books to name–these are just the first which spring to mind. 

5 thoughts on “Reader Mailbag: January Edition”

  1. Hi Margo

    “Wow, a normal question. You must be a woman.” Hey! That’s a little unfair. But maybe understandable given the first two questions.

    Here’s a question: What is your favorite place/spot/location in New York City?


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